When giving fellatio, Emily suggests using the tip of your tongue to tease the frenulum, “the most sensitive part of the penis.” Use your tongue as if you’re licking an ice cream cone. You’ll find the frenulum where the shaft meets the tip on the underside of the penis.Jan 30, 2023

Giving a man oral sex, also known as fellatio or a “blow job,” is a form of sexual intimacy that focuses on stimulating the penis with your mouth, tongue, and lips

. The key to making it a great experience is communication, enthusiasm, and combining different techniques. 

Key Techniques and Tips

• Communicate and Listen: Every person’s body is different, so ask your partner what they like, what pressure they prefer, and pay attention to their non-verbal cues like breathing or hip movements.
• Hygiene: Ensure both you and your partner are clean. A quick shower beforehand can help you both feel more comfortable and relaxed.
• Lubrication: Use plenty of saliva or a flavored, water-based lubricant to reduce friction, which can be unpleasant or painful for both of you. Drink water beforehand to ensure your mouth stays moist.
• Protect your Teeth: Wrap your lips over your teeth to create a cushion. Avoid biting or scraping with your teeth.
• Use Your Hands: Incorporate your hands to stroke the shaft, cup or massage the testicles, or stimulate other erogenous zones (e.g., inner thighs, nipples). This can also give your jaw a break.
• Vary Pace and Pressure: Start slow with light pressure, then experiment with different speeds and intensities. Use your entire tongue for long strokes and the tip for focusing on sensitive areas like the head (glans) and the frenulum (the small ridge of skin on the underside of the penis head).
• Don’t Forget the Testicles: They are sensitive, too. Gently massage or lightly suck on them while continuing to pleasure the penis with your mouth or hand.
• Eye Contact and Dirty Talk: Making eye contact can be a major turn-on and conveys enthusiasm. Talking dirty or making noises also shows you’re enjoying yourself, which can enhance his pleasure.
• Deep Throating is Optional: You don’t have to deep throat to give an amazing blow job. Only go as deep as you are comfortable.
• Ejaculation Plan: Discuss beforehand what you both prefer when he is close to climax. You can switch to using your hand, let him finish on another part of your body, or swallow if you are comfortable with it. Semen is safe to ingest, but the choice is yours.
• Enthusiasm is Key: Your attitude matters most. Showing genuine enjoyment and a desire to please him is incredibly arousing. 

Above all, focus on your partner’s response and your own comfort level. The best oral sex is a shared, communicative experience.